Recently, a National Review article featured a comment from a reader which illustrated that, when it comes to women, climbing the corporate ladder may decrease your chances of finding a husband.
It’s time to have a real, heart-to-heart discussion about what is working and what is not working when it comes to seeking a spouse.
There are so many women in their 40’s and 50’s who are now questioning the career decisions they made decades are go. They desperately want to get married, but are no longer young and life circumstances have changed.
WHY GETTING MARRIED YOUNG IS IMPORTANT
Let’s just be honest.
A woman who is in her 40’s or 50’s is not in her prime. Her years of maximum beauty are behind her even if she “looks good for her age”.
It is a sad, but biological fact that men are very visual and generally seek younger women who at least have the “potential” of providing them with children. That goes for Christian men too. Don’t be fooled.
Of course life doesn’t cater to our wishes and young people are increasingly dealing with infertility. That doesn’t negate the fact that we are biologically designed to get married and bear children when we’re young.
While you might still get married when you’re older; the likelihood decreases
The problem is that if you are focused on climbing the corporate calendar, you won’t have any time to focus on finding a mate.
Also, and this isn’t politically correct to say, some fields are just too intimidating to the average man. It also doesn’t help that American culture has degraded men to the degree that many don’t even feel confident that they can provide for their families.
Real Talk From a 50-Year Old Woman With Four College Degrees
This woman decided to “keep it real” so that others don’t make the same mistake she made.
“I’m 50 years old with four college degrees. I was raised by a feminist mother with no father in the home. My mother told me get an education to the maximum level so that you can get out in the world, make a lot of money. And that’s the path I followed. I make adequate money. I don’t make a ton of money. But I do make enough to support my own household.
I want to tell women in their 20s: Do not follow the path that I followed. You are leading yourself to a life of loneliness. All of your friends will be getting married and having children, and you’re working to compete in the world, and what you’re doing is competing with men. Men don’t like competitors. Men want a partner. It took me until my late 40s to realize this.
And by the time you have your own household with all your own bills, you can’t get off that track, because now you’ve got to make the money to pay your bills. It’s hard to find a partner in your late 40s to date because you also start losing self-confidence about your looks, your body. It’s not the same as it was in your 20s. You try to do what you can to make your life fulfilling. I have cats and dogs. But it’s lonely when you see your friends having children, going on vacations, planning the lives of their children, and you don’t do anything at night but come home to your cats and dogs. I don’t want other women to do what I have done.”
Read More on National Review.
How is a Woman Supposed to Take Care of Herself If She Doesn’t Have a Career?
It’s not that woman shouldn’t have a job or a career. She just cannot be focused on climbing the ladder – not only because she is less likely to have time to find a mate, but because it will be a problem if she decides to stay at home with her kids when they’re young.
Fortunately, there are excellent fields for women who want to get married and have children.
Good Fields For Women
Nursing is at the top of our list because it’s a very flexible field that allows you to make a substantial income. The median salary for an RN with a bachelor’s degree is $70,000. Licensed Practical Nurses make an average of $45,000 without a Bachelor’s degree.
Another reason the Nursing field is attractive is because there are opportunities for flexible scheduling depending on your seniority and the field of nursing and it is completely possible to take time off to have children and then get back in the workforce, full-time or part-time when the kids are older.
Nursing is a traditionally a field for women and you can do a lot of good without climbing a ladder.
Not into the health field? Here are some other examples of careers that work well with homeschooling.
What are your thoughts on how climbing the corporate ladder can affect a woman’s chance of getting married?
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