From Marian Dress Code to Elegant Catholic Attire – A Journey in Modesty

2019 update:
I admit I’ve gotten sort of lazy since I now go from car to destination, as opposed to having to walk the streets of NYC.  I had to re-read this to remind myself that it is okay to dress nicely as Catholics.

Everything is a process and our growth in Catholicism is a process. Understanding the term “Marian dress code” is also a process.

I became a Catholic through traditional Catholicism. My first Mass was a traditional Latin Mass, which blew me away. I fell in love with the Mass according to the 1962 missal and I fell in love with all things traditional.

Because I was a Catholic in a family of Protestants, I didn’t know much about Catholic culture, since I never had Catholics in my family to emulate.  And so, when I looked for cues on how to dress as a modest Catholic, my only role models were women who dressed so over-the-top, they were walking anachronisms. They called this manner of dressing a “Marian dress code”.  I call it dressing Amish, but in all fairness, the style is closer to how Mormons dress.

marian dress code

In the beginning, I thought if I wanted to dress modestly, I always had to dress in prairie skirts and dresses. I knew several traditional ladies with exemplary spiritual practices. They explained to me patiently that women are to dress “Marian”. I grew to understand that included long dresses with long sleeves and collars that were buttoned up to the neck.

Where in the world did they get this idea?

Pope Pius XI on Marian Dress Code

Pope Pius XI, in a “A Papal Decree Concerning Modesty“, stated:


“A dress cannot be called decent which is cut deeper than two fingers breadth under the pit of the throat; which does not cover the arms at least to the elbows; and scarcely reaches a bit beyond the knees. Furthermore, dresses of transparent materials are improper.” (The Cardinal Vicar of Pope Pius XI).

1. Marylike is modest without compromise, “like Mary,” Christ’s mother.

2. Marylike dresses have sleeves extending at least to the elbows; and skirts reaching below the knees. [N.B. Because of impossible market conditions quarter-length sleeves are temporarily tolerated with Ecclesiastical Approval, until Christian womanhood again turns to Mary as the model of modesty in dress.]

3. Marylike dress requires full coverage for the bodice, chest, shoulders and back; except for a cut-out about the neck not exceeding two inches below the neckline in front and in back and a corresponding two inches on the shoulders.

4. Marylike dresses do not admit as modest coverage transparent fabrics — laces, nets, organdy, nylons, etc. — unless sufficient backing is added. However, their moderate use as trimmings is acceptable.

5. Marylike dresses do not admit the use improper of flesh-colored fabrics.

6. Marylike dresses conceal rather than reveal the figure of the wearer; they do not unduly emphasize the parts of the body.

7. Marylike dresses provide full coverage — even after the jacket, the cape or the stole are removed.

8. Slacks or ‘jeans’ are not to be worn to church. Marylike fashions are designed to conceal as much of the body as possible rather than reveal it. This would automatically eliminate such fashions as tight fitting slacks or ‘jeans’, sweaters, shorts; shorts which do not reach down at least to the knees; sheer blouses and sleeveless dresses, etc. These Marylike standards are a guide to instill a sense of modesty. Women and girls who follow these standards and who look to Mary as their ideal and model will have no problem of modesty in dress. She who follows these standards will not be the occasion of sin nor a source of embarrassment or shame to others.”

Now, all these recommendations are wonderful, but what does this translate to on the ground? If we dress in outlandish ways, that actually draws attention to ourselves and in fact we are then not being modest at all, are we?  Modesty involves more than dress, it also involves behavior and wanting to wear something that screams modesty is not modesty in behavior.

Modesty is not anti-fashion.

This needs to be said.  In the current traditional Catholic movement, I noticed that the more plain a person dresses, the more modest they are considered to be. Young girls end up dressing in clothes that their grandmothers would wear.  God does not require this of us.

Interestingly, when I look at old European pictures of Catholics, I noticed the women were dressed elegantly in their Sunday bests. If we even take a look at pictures of Jackie Kennedy entering or leaving churches, we see how beautifully she dressed.

Marian Dress Code

Jackie Kennedy Leaving Church

I understand that the images associated with a Marian dress code derives from the apparitions of our Lady witnessed by many.  However, let me ask this:  If  Mary lived in 2016, what kind of clothes would she wear? Does anyone actually believe she would be dressed like a woman dressed in the early first century?

Somehow I doubt it.

I would like to challenge all the ladies here to strive for a more elegant representation of modesty than what we mostly see as heralded on social media and blogs. We do not need non-believers to view Catholics as weirdos.  A so-called “Marian dress code”, can also be elegant. Let us strive to dress modestly and elegantly.

One book I’d recommend is Dressing with Dignity by Colleen Hammond. She has some awesome tips on modest, but elegant fashion.

Who wants to join me in this challenge?

Resources on Modern Dress

Dressing with Dignity by Colleen Hammond.
All Things Girl: Modern and Modest (For Tweens & Teens)
Mod Li Modest Fashion

Stores That Sell Modest Clothing

This list is a list in progress as I am always looking for new spots. Here are some I’ve found and please feel free to comment with places you’ve found.

  • EShakti
  • Amazon. Yes, Amazon! The black dress on the right, is on Amazon.
  • H&M – H&M has a modest line now, but I’ve always been able to fight modern tops and skirts at H&M.

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12 thoughts on “From Marian Dress Code to Elegant Catholic Attire – A Journey in Modesty

  1. Carolyn A Gaydosh

    Well said! 🙂 Couldn’t have said it better! My thoughts exactly:)
    I do love Colleen Hammond’s excellent book! It’s such an eye opener, a helper to one’s wardrobe of elegance.

  2. Ben Rhodes

    If Mary were to walk among us in 2016, I strongly doubt that she would be much concerned with “elegance” (except, perhaps, for special occasions, such as a wedding).
    Most of the time, she would blend right in with the people around her, just as her Son did, who was like us in all ways but without sin. She wouldn’t dress like a walking anachronism, nor would she dress like a prostitute (and I truly doubt that she would dress like Jackie-O). Rather, like her Son, she would take the form of a servant., dressing like the young mothers and the housewives and the poor women that she loves, the common women that we see in the supermarket and in the workplace every day, who wear “mom jeans” and T-shirts, waitress uniforms and office clothing. She almost certainly wouldn’t be wearing Chanel, unless she were on a special outreach mission to the “ladies who lunch” at the country club.

    “My soul doth magnify the Lord : and my spirit hath rejoiced in God my Saviour.
    For he hath regarded : the lowliness of his handmaiden….”

    1. Gayle

      Our Lady wearing mom jeans and t-shirts? I would think she would blend in, but in keeping with the wisdom of the Church as she is the mother of it’s birth. Cardinal Siri in 1960 (not even so long ago!) warned of the downfalls of women wearing pants (this was also supported by Pope Pius XI), especially tight ones, as is so common now. I hardly think Our Lady wouldn’t heed the wisdom of this prelate of the Church. I read his Notification concerning men’s dress worn by women some time ago, but it was only recently that the Holy Ghost enlightened me to really hear what he was trying to teach. We ladies are the key to how society goes and we cannot shut out the wisdom of the Church, even if it’s hard to accept. Our Lady would listen to the wisdom of the Church. She would obliterate this unisex mentality that has slowly been accomplished to corrupt women and ultimately crush the Church. You can read about it in the Permanent Instruction of the Alta Vendita, the Masonic blueprint for the subversion of the Catholic Church. They have picked women to be one of their three main tools. I, and my family, intend to subvert THEIR plan! I will not let them use me as a tool of evil. We ladies have to become to know and understand this evil in order to have the strength and courage to push back this plan.

  3. Gayle

    And yes, Colleen Hammond has given us a great gift in Dressing with Dignity!! I join you in the challenge….may Our Lady guard us and Our Lord strengthen us and give a thirst for Truth!

  4. Simona

    Let’s consider that perhaps God purposefully chose Mary to be born into the time and place she was because of, not in spite of, the dress habits of that era. Do you not think God could have chosen another time with another dress code? So, if he did purposefully choose that era, perhaps He is showing us clearly what womanly, holy dress should be. God in his mercy does not hit us over the head with this as a commandment, but ever gently shows us His way. In all her apparition, Mary appears in the ethnicity of the local people, but not in their mode of dress. Perhaps we should ponder that.

  5. A.R.

    My friend in Christ,
    unfortunately this post – while having very good intentions – is sort of a blunder.
    We are not of the world. We are not of this time. That Pius Xi “Marylike code” is how we should dress. Nothing more, nothing less. Please, sister in Christ, reconsider your views in prayer. A woman is a lily and lilies are protected by petals. God bless you always

  6. Tracy Valdez

    “So called Marian Dress code”

    I love the “so called”

    The Statement that our holy mother would dress to blend in is false.

    When our Lady of Guadalupe appeared to Juan Diego did she dress in typical Indian fasion? Nope absolutly not!
    So ladies please take that false premise out of your mind now….it is not true. Our Holy mother always appeared super modest. As Catholics we need to stop adopting the ways of the world to be accepted…….remember our home is in heaven.

    1. Convert on Fire Post author

      Our Lady of Guadalupe, did dress in indian fashion. I just attended a talk on Our Lady of Guadalupe. The picture includes elements of Indian culture.

      Check out this link.

  7. Hannah

    Whose fingers, mine or my husband’s?
    With mine, I’d be like a nun, but with his, it would be close to the boobs 😀


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